A Wake Up Call

If you’re conversant with the recent happenings with the Coza rape scandal, you would agree with me that it’s been a very tough season for many Christians. I’ve tried to put my thoughts down for the longest time but I’ve been numb and uninspired. When the scandal first broke out, I was in denial and then my feelings graduated to anger, disappointment, heartbreak and maybe even shame. I’m still shook about the whole situation but then I feel I’m doing a lot better compared to the emotional wreck I was a few weeks ago. Thanks to the peace of the Holy Spirit and a few friends who have been there.

However, I think there’s still a bit of anger because this hit home deeply. People who know me, can tell how much I love and cherish Coza and everything it stood for, I wore the “Coza cape” with so much pride. I guess that’s why I felt ashamed. I hated that this was happening to Coza, it still feels like a bad dream I need to desperately wake up from. Unfortunately that’s never going to happen because this is reality.

In as much as I’m angry at the situation. I more angry at what it did to Coza members. Indirectly or not, we were all made to take a stand, you’re either in support or not in support, oh the awkwardness and disappointment smh. There’s no grey, it’s black or white. In the quest to support the pastor, many people have thrown common sense and whatever is left of their of humanity out the window. As much as I can’t wake up from this bad dream, there’s a different awakening for me, this is a wake up call for me and maybe other Christians like me. I’m awakened to the realization that the most important relationship in your life should be your relationship with God. I’ve known this but it feels like I know it differently. If you get what I mean. Lol

Do you have a relationship with God or your relationship is with your church and the finesse of being a church goer or being a worker in church ? Maybe you’ve replaced the love you should have for people to love for only members of your church. So, do you really love God like you claim you do?

Oh, I’m not left out, I’m also asking myself these questions. The past three weeks has been filled with questions, questions I didn’t think I’d ever ask. I’ve had to sit down and ask myself several questions. I’v also been reflecting on the things I was taught to believe. The conclusion was for me to go back to the basics because I realized there was so much lacking. I really want to know for myself, not just revelations from the pulpit. So I’m asking you, do you really know God for yourself or you’re living off just what you’re fed with by pastors ? Do you even want to know?

Unfortunately, I came to the realization of the depth of my ignorance when I started to know more. Last month, I signed up for a Bible course, as I sat through the teachings, I was taken aback at how much I didn’t know. There’s so much distraction, even within the walls of the church. It’s easy to get carried away with the activities of religion and forget what is most important.

We have that responsibility as Christians to know. Don’t just rely on just what your pastors and leaders say, if you live your life that way you’ll never know if you’re taught right or being led astray.

I think the summary of my whole post is to encourage christians to know God for themselves, of course with the help of the Holy Spirit. When was the last time you sat down, prayed for understanding and studied the Bible yourself ? When was the last time you invested your time and resources in getting to know God better. Would you even spend your money on getting a new Bible ? Or any material that will help your spiritual growth?

Do not neglect your relationship with God, nothing is worth it, nothing will ever be.

After all the struggles, I’ve been finally able to put up this post. I should also apologize for my hiatus from the blog, ‘adulting’ has been happening to me and it’s a lot to get used to. Good news is that I plan to be more consistent this second half of the year.

If you have any comments, questions or contributions based on my post, please do not hesitate to leave one in the comment box below! Thank you for reading.

Fisayo ❤️

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23 Comments Add yours

  1. Queen Karen says:

    Fisayo, you said it all. I wasn’t aware of this scandal but when I watched it a few weeks ago, I was moved and saddened. It could happen to anyone. I know friends of mine who have been raped. It’s a sensitive topic but I’m glad that the victims are coming out. Having the courage to tell their story. No longer bound!

    Having a personal relationship with God is key. So many Christians are focused on being an attendee at church. It’s a blessing to attend church but a follow up question I ask people is this: What does your life look like from Monday through Saturday? Do you open up your Bible? Majority of people answer No. If there is anything that my pastor tells the congregation is as follows : Get to know God. You don’t know God based on what your Pastor says. God can use your pastor but He can also use you. I can say so much about this topic. It’s a wake up call for many Christians. If your pastor says jump, they skip. If He says eat grass, you’ll become rich, they will eat. It’s even getting to the point where people who once fellowshipped, are leaving the church. The truth is not being preached. The core of most messages is about getting rich and obtaining wealth. That’s not the message of salvation. God wants the best for us all but its unto those who choose to dwell in the presence of God who experience all that God has in stored. Indeed, it’s a wake up call. The light is shining and darkness cannot comprehend it. Thank you for sharing your insights on this matter. God bless you 🙏🏿😊

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    1. Wow! Karen, thank you so much for your words. Really, we Christians need to wake up from whatever slumber we may be stuck in. It seems like many of us are sleeping, this laziness has got to stop. May our desire to know God, and our desire for truth truth never go down. Thank you ❤️❤️❤️

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  2. Prisca says:

    It is important to know God for yourself. Gods word is everything


    1. God’s word is everything 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼


  3. Anne Afolabi says:

    To say I’m proud of you is beyond words Fisayo. At the end we’re fighting the good fight of faith. Going back to the basics has been the best thing I’ve done. As much as this might sound crazy but this entire thing has allowed me question and test everything like the Bible commanded and oh how wonderful it is

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    1. Yasss! That’s what we need. And we keep fighting sis ❤️❤️❤️. Love you girl !


  4. Jeduthun Adesina says:

    This blessed me so much Fisayo.. GOD bless you greatly 🙏 🙏


    1. Awwn ! Thank you for reading Jed ❤️. Hope to see more of you here.


  5. Joan Simpa says:

    Nice one ma’am. this is what i have always and will everly preach. HAVE A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD!!! Its the Ultimate. It saves me a lot of heartache and directionless lifestyle. its the missing path in a lot of Christian’s lives.

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    1. I’m glad this post served as that reminder! Thank you for stopping by Joan ❤️


  6. Wosilat Zacks says:

    Great post. Right timing! Good reminder. This blessed me. We need to keep pushing and yearning for the word of God personally, nothing beats knowing God for yourself.

    We keep fighting and pushing till we achieve God’s purpose for our lives with the Holy Spirit being our guide.

    Thanks for sharing.
    God bless you for this.

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    1. Nothing beats knowing God for yourself 🙌🏼. Thank you so much Wosilat! I’m glad this blessed you. Hope to see more of you on the blog ❤️


  7. Chinwoke Isiguzo says:

    Well said Fisayo! You have grown into a young woman that I deeply admire. Thank you for sharing this. It blessed my heart.

    I absolutely agree with you that it is about time we Christians get back to the word and KNOW GOD FOR OURSELVES. I always tell people around me, God has called me as a priest and a prophet “unto” myself. What that means is that whatever any man of God is telling me, should be a confirmation of what has said to me. About 2 years ago, God drew my attention to the Berean Christians. Acts 17 said that they were more noble than those in Thessalonica in that they received the word with all readiness of mind and searched the scriptures daily whether those things were so.

    Unlike other Jews, the Bereans were quick to receive the message that Paul and Silas brought them, but they weren’t naïve – they didn’t take Paul’s word for it, but searched the Scriptures daily to find out whether these things were so. So, for almost 2 years now, I study a book in the bible with Chike and a couple of friends every month. I would tell you, this is not easy. What this has helped me achieve is that even if my General Overseer comes to me and tells me that he no longer believes in all the things he did teach us, I would boldly tell me not worry because I have experienced him through his word.

    Let’s note that there’s a reason for saying that Christianity is having a personal relationship with God. There’s a place for that one on one knowledge of the father which can be experienced at the personal altar of prayer and the word.

    Thank you again Fisayo.

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    1. Omgggg !!! Wow. Thank you so much ma’am. You taking out time to read and comment on the blog has made my whole month! I couldn’t agree less with everything you have written. I am truly humbled that this post blessed you and I give glory to God for that. Really appreciate the feedback, plus it’s so good to hear from you ❤️❤️


  8. Ibrahim says:

    Wow! This is an Eye-opener for me and indeed a wake up call to taking my relationship with God seriously. Nice piece

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    1. Glad to read this ❤️. Thank you Ibrahim!


  9. adarh9 says:

    Wow fisayo! This is such a key reminder! Bless your heart for this post! Speaking grace and peace over you as you deal with and transition through this period

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Amen ! Thank you my love ❤️


  10. Sarah Audu says:

    Certain things we go through in this life, have a way of making us see things differently. Thank you for sharing a girl. We Christians definitely need to do more and go further to know God for ourselves.

    Princess Audu


    1. Thank you Sarah ❤️❤️❤️


  11. I’m just reading this now and I thoroughly enjoyed it, thank you for reminding us of the utmost our relationship with God beyond our church attendance. God bless you!!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you for stopping by 🤗💕


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