Life Lately ; Handling Constructive Criticism

Hello beautiful people. So today I’m dropping my first blog post in April *dances*

I finally made it back guys 😭😭😭. Whew! My absence has been as a result of life happenings and I’m sure we all get to experience that. A lot has been going on with me and it’s definitely not been a walk in the park. If you follow me on instagram, @fisayoade, you’ll see I’ve been talking about growth, learning, becoming, blooming ? Yep! because that’s where I am at this point of my life.

Have you ever gotten to that point where God uses people around you to show you how certain things you do are actually wrong but you didn’t even know? Things you used to do that were normal to you but suddenly someone points it out to you and you realize it isn’t okay? Yup!

At first it felt overwhelming, but right now I’m grateful God put me around people who correct me without sugar coating it. Just hit me with it fam, lol I’m ready to deal with it. Amongst all other things, this process has taught me how to manage criticism, and honestly before now, I couldn’t stand honest feedbacks especially from my friends maybe because deep down I knew it was true or I just couldn’t man up and deal with my feelings. I hated conversations like that, and always avoided them like a plague. Lol and you see life is funny, if you don’t deal with it now, you’re most likely going to deal with it later, it may be harder, and in front of a larger audience

A comfort zone is a beautiful place, but nothing ever grows there

A transformation process is never going to be easy, you’re going to cry sometimes, feel angry, get sad, complain, but if it’s making you a better person, honey embrace that process like your life depended on it, because it might someday.

So based on my experience, and what I’m learning, these are a few steps on how to handle criticism :

• Discern

Firstly discern if they’re coming from a place of love. Be sure they want to see you become a better you or they’re just trying to crush your spirit. If they are people who criticise you all the time and choose not to see any good you, don’t listen to them! Block your ears lol maybe not literally or maybe but don’t let what they say have any place in your heart especially when you know its not true.

• Listen

Initially I used to get really moody, and that clouded my judgement. You need to listen and ask questions before becoming defensive. For example if someone says you’re rude, find out why. Could it be something you did or said that you’re not even aware of, something that has become a habit ? Ask questions, separate yourself from the situation and reason with them. When you don’t see it as an attack, that’s when you’ll see where they’re coming from. It may not feel too good at that point but you’ll be fine.

• Implement

Make changes! It may not happen over night but baby steps will make a difference. Change doesn’t happen overnight! This is where I currently am, trying to put all I’ve learned into practice. Everyone is going through a process, and I believe we’re all a work in progress.

• Be easy on yourself

No one is perfect. No matter what you do, some people can’t be pleased. You Just work on yourself, and don’t beat yourself up for making mistakes.

• Be thankful

Only people who love you will care, only people who love you will correct you, only people who love you will tell you the honest truth.

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Most importantly, let the Holy Spirit comfort you in this process of ‘becoming’, becoming who God has called you to be. Rest in God’s love, that’s important!

This has been my prayer lately, and you can pray it also, if you speak in tongues, you can do that as well! You pray the Fathers mind when you speak in tongues.

Dear God help me to truly learn all you want me to learn in this season of my life, help me to be teachable and open to corrections so I become who you’ve called me to be. Amen!

So I’ve come to the end of today’s post. I hope y’all learned something, and I hope this also blessed you. How do you deal with criticism? Have you gone through this phase in your life before?

Kindly leave a comment below, let’s learn from each other.

Fisayo ❤