AFRAID OF GROWING UP? |Confessions of a twenty something year old

Helloooooo lovely people!!

I’m super ecstatic today because tomorrows is my birthday. Last day being 23, no longer a freshman of adulting lol. Still thinking about what I wanna do with myself tomorrow but I’m sure I wanna go see Black Panther for the first time, so I can officially use the wakanda forever hashtag in all my pictures 😂lol. Anyway, I had been thinking about what post to do for my birthday, and it just clicked when I came across this blog post ” overcoming the fear of growing up” by my amazing blogger babe Oreoluwa Aremo of lifestyleoforeoluwa.com.

Since I turned 20, I’ve always hidden my age fron the general public, not because it was the norm for most young Nigerian women not to let people know their true age. I absolutely love celebrating my birthday but every time my birthday was around the corner, I’d start feeling a bit anxious because most times its a reminder of how old I’m getting and the many goals and responsibilities waiting for me. lol When I was 17, I could swear I’d be married by the time I was 24😂😂😂😂.

I’ve always felt ”old” amongst my peers who I’m usually a year or two years older than. I remember when I was a few years younger, maybe 17, I believe twenty four was ‘really old,’ but it isn’t and just recently I realized that I was wasting my time obsessing when I could be thanking God for the life He’s given me and smashing my goals.

Remember this; whatever age you are, that’s the youngest you can be – Fisayo Adeyemi

Society has a way to tying achievements to one’s age, and it can be pretty daunting especially when you don’t fit into popular opinions. By 21 you should have have graduated from university, by 26 you should be married, by 30 you should be a billionaire lol. Said who? There’s so much pressure to fit in, even family members start asking you very personal questions, some because they truly care while the majority because they just like abembo (gossip in Yoruba 😂). Please don’t kill yourself because you want to impress people who don’t even care. Your goal should be to make God proud and yourself happy.

I remember last year, few hours to my birthday, I was praising, praying and thanking God for 22 and handing over 23 to Him. I wasn’t in a relationship as at then, my walk with God was not as consistent as I would have wanted it to be. Earlier in January I had told God one of the things I wanted was a godly relationship, and I wrote down the things I wanted in a partner. I reminded God again of my request, and I prayed for a more consistent walk with God, my pastors called me that day and asked what I wanted and I told them my requests. Bae showed up two months later and my walk with God has been consistent even though its not been perfect.

If you follow me on instagram, I’ve been doing a thanksgiving challenge for 7 days, thanking God for the things I wouldn’t usually thank Him about. Today is the final day and looking back on all I have thanked God for, I can scream I am blessed. Definitely not where I want to be, but I’m not where I used to be.

So whatever age you are, thank God for it because not everyone has the opportunity to grow up – Fisayo Adeyemi

Work on your goals and personal growth. Whatever age you are, that’s definitely the age God wants you to be, if not, you wouldn’t have been born in 1994 or whatever age.

You can say this along with me :

From today henceforth, I promise never to see myself as ‘old’ or out of time, I am right in the middle of Gods plan for my life, I am where God wants me to be. I choose to work hard, pray harder, trust God’s timing, and celebrate every milestone in my life. I choose to focus on my life and pursue purpose. I refuse to be pressured by societal trends, family or friends, but I choose to live my best life as a single woman/man until I’m married and continue to live my best life in marriage. I declare that I am blessed and favoured, I am indeed the salt of the earth, and the light of the world. I choose to hold God’s word over the worlds standards and promote Jesus with everything I have. So help me God, Amen.

If you’re too busy being bothered about how old you are, how are you going to enjoy your life? Don’t worry if you think you haven’t achieved much, we serve a timeless God who can make anything happen, things that should have taken 10 years, He can make it happen in 1 year. Your part is to work hard, pray and trust God with your life.

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7 And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus – Philippians 4:6

Happy birthday to me ❤